Dealing With Anxiety
The Secret

Dealing with anxiety taxes your skills. Thoughts drive you crazy. But, a secret tip brushes off the angst. And, confidence soars through the roof. Aren't you fed up with feeling the pain of doing nothing?

We take lame pokes at trying to control anxiety. Do anything to avoid it. Anxiety is that uncomfortable to go through.

Anxiousness thrives on what you're afraid of...

  • Losing the sense of who you are, your status, friends.
  • Hardship. Not having the pluck to wallop difficulties.
  • Failure. Or, is it really fear of succeeding gnawing at you?


Dealing with anxiety can be an incredible signal to take action. Accepting anxiousness, when it occurs, is the turning point.

The unpleasantness does pass. What's more, you can ease discomfort, while it run its course, with a clever trick described further down the page.

The Imagined Future

Anxiety has an annoying playmate. “What if...?” scenarios spinning in your head. The imagined future.
Soon this narrows into tunnel vision. And, can change how you live your life.

More attention is paid to possible threats than to what feels safe.

For example: Your focus, at a gathering, is on the one person glaring in your direction. But, miss the others, grinning, eager to chat with you. In an elevator, you're left gasping. But, don't notice air freely blowing through the vent.

No doubt about it...

Fears are magnified. But, fear also squeezes thinking. You ignore how to outplay what scares you. Past success? You don't remember any.

Our brain's instinctive response to danger in all its glory.

But, the reaction mutates into a hangup when the threat is fuzzy. Hard to nail down. This is anxiety's stomping ground.

Dealing with Anxiety

The key to deal with anxiety, is to bring on board the thinking part of your brain. So, the unknown doesn't terrorize. The goal is to pull you back into the present, the now.

The perfect riches, and you have them, for dealing with anxiety, are...

  • Logic.
  • Judging do's and don'ts.
  • Organizing, planning.
  • Calculating odds of success.
  • Language. Numbers.

Using them yanks focus away from anxiety's unpleasant sensations. Steers attention towards detail. And, discover you're on much safer footing than first believed.

Your thinking brain helps to...

  • Easily remember past victories in similar situations. And, compare, to unlock better results.
  • Plan and organize. So you can make yourself as comfortable as possible, while the discomfort passes.
  • Spring ideas to flat-out relax.

Maybe it's been a struggle. Your brain is working against you instead of for you. Consider anxiety disorder treatment choices. You have access to what you never dreamed of achieving...ways to handle anxiousness. And, get your life back.

The battle may be with drugs. Reducing Xanax use is one example of a step taken to clear your brain of fogginess. Making it easier to pay attention to the conversation inside your head.


A clever trick for dealing with anxiety is language. Words and sentences can override the impulse to freeze, flee or fight shapeless, confusing threats.

What's the catch?

The brain doesn't do well focused on more than 1 thing at a time.

To cut the drama anxiety itches for, grab thoughts as they breeze by. Utter each one, slowly, clearly. In complete, understandable sentences. Study what's taking shape.

While you're doing this, anxiety loses its place as king of the hill. You're focused on what you're saying to yourself.

Expressing what's on your mind, privately or out loud, brings you back to NOW. Concentrating on words kills anxiety's power over the imagined future. And, you're back in the driver's seat.

When there's too much negativity in the conversation, and you're tired of it, take a look at cognitive therapy to beat toxic logic.

Dealing with Anxiety  I Can Do This!

The Winning Ticket

Taking time to outline thoughts can shed light on uncertainty. And, straighten out fact from falsehood anxiety belches out.
Stopping to think on questions to ask yourself, could be THE winning ticket to dealing with anxiety. Detailed answers cement the bonus that comes with it...lower anxiety.

Words and sentences name what you're going through. They paint a clear picture. Pay special attention to details. There are probably safe zones you didn't notice.

You're about to achieve 2 results in dealing with anxiety...

  1. While concentrating and sketching the story, discomfort slips away.
  2. The play-by-play, clear as crystal, is easier to remember. And, compare to, later.

Here's more...

Because you learn after each experience, your ability to solve uneasy situations, becomes practiced. Sophisticated. With better results.

It becomes a cinch to snub non-verbal, instinctive fight-flight-flee behaviors that make you want to pull the hair out of your head.


To get you started, try this:

Ask yourself...

  • What's making me nervous?
  • What is the real fear?
  • What's damage?
  • Is it really that bad?
  • How will I feel about this episode next week? Next month? Years from now?

How to make it it works:

  • Talk to yourself...slowly. Time is your best friend when dealing with anxiety.
  • Utter one question at a time. Pause. Then, answer it. In detail. 
  • Zero in on safe signals. They'll help you relax.
  • A slow speaking inner voice has a calming effect. So, take your time with the answer.
  • Lower the tone while having a conversation with yourself. It comes across as trustworthy and legit. You'll tend to pay closer attention.

You can refine questions to defuse anxiety and clear misunderstandings. Questioning Techniques with James Manktelow and Amy Carlson offers captivating tips to do just that.

The article aims at exchanges between individuals. Simply switch to having a conversation just with yourself.

By using language as as your very own power tool, resources you thought you never had, will shine, peek through. And, the reassurance you're doing everything you can to get better, finally finds a home.

While dealing with anxiety, time is your best friend. Using language to override instinctive impulses to fight, flee or freeze, does the trick. Why put up with feeling the pain of doing nothing?

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